Not sure why this is that big of a deal. I've been around youth hockey for forty years, simply just play where you find the best fit and are happy. It all has become to business oriented and less focused on developing players and youth hockey. Many/most will only play youth hockey and why try to manage the careers of our kids.
*Parents stay out of the process, let the kids earn their spot and be content where they land. Stop being lawnmower parents, let the kids navigate aversity on their own. Build better quality young adults.
*AAA, AA, A, B??? The real difference is consistency in intensity. I've seen many AAA that are miss placed just to grab the extra letter and struggle to beat quality AA teams and the same can be said all the way down the line.
*Don't lobby for or push your player to play over their head. Playing to high to soon, will set them back much more than one year in confidence development.
*Not everyone can play at the highest level (AAA / AA). Rosters are capped for a reason, to keep it competitive. Far too many "elite" level teams these days, diluting the talent pool
Play, Have Fun, Improve, Compete, Smile... end of the day, your still playing hockey!